A lot of my clients are over the age of 35, and they all express similar concerns:
“Why am not happy?”
“I am not getting what I want in life”
“Something needs to change.”
Why is that?
Because we cannot live the second half of our life the same way we lived the first.
There is a great quote by Carl Jung that says:
“Thoroughly unprepared, we take the step into the afternoon of life. Worse still, we take this step with the false presupposition that our truths and ideals will serve us as hitherto. But we cannot live the afternoon of life according to the program of life’s morning, for what was great in the morning will be little in the evening, and what in the morning was true will at evening have become a lie.”
So what becomes a lie in the afternoon of your life? First of all, all the conditioning, false fears, someone else’s beliefs that you’ve taken on.
Quite often my clients feel that they lived somebody else’s life, not of their own. Pleasing, adjusting, accomodating someone else or someone else’s ideas and limitations — parents, society, colleagues, family.
In other cases people are driven by ego, hunger, scarcity, occupied by ambition: getting as much as you can, collecting as much stuff as you can get, impressing as many people as you can, chasing the best job … doing all the ‘right’ things.
To the point where they end up feeling empty, numb, exhausted, disconnected and unhappy despite all the things they have achieved.
During the early years of childhood, we absorb like a sponge everything from the people around us. We grow up with certain beliefs and values that are not our own, and then with all the energy and enthusiasm implementing everything we’ve learned.
- Did you ever question if what you learned years ago, is still valid today?
- Is it in alignment with your innate truth or is it simply programmed in your mind?
- Did you stop to think about your needs and values and assess your life according to that?
Could that be a reason you are so disconnected from yourself and the life you’ve created?
The transition to leading a purpose-driven life happens in the second half of life and starts with letting go of the past and healing past wounds.
To move to a life of meaning — you need to know what is meaningful to you.
To know what is meaningful to you — you need to know yourself.
And not the old young self, but a TRUE self.
After our sessions clients share:
- “I finally truly know myself. I actually SEE myself”.
- “I have freed up my self-acceptance and self-appreciation that lead to me being more loving, inspired and compassionate to other people”.
- “I started giving myself a lot more compassion and love than I ever could have expected to give myself… and in return, I also started receiving a lot more as well”.
- “It felt like I could finally let go of all the baggage that was not ME. Now I feel the freest I ever felt in my life”.
What do we focus on to receive such results?
- Coming to a new level of unconditional self-love, really getting to know and accepting ourselves
- Setting healthy boundaries based on your needs and values
- Uncovering your TRUE identity vs masks and roles created to adapt and survive
- Forgiving yourself and letting go of the past
- Creating healthy relationships rooted in love and respect
- Releasing traumas and dissolving fears
- Allowing yourself to act freely in life
We can not live the afternoon of life according to the program of life’s morning.
It is time to create your own program. The one that is aligned with YOUR needs and wants, purpose and talent, inspiration and desires.